Iranian Parenting – Add Education towards the Social Skills
Sunday, July 24th, 2011Academic education is valued highly within our Iranian culture. The idea of being someone with university degrees is really a yearning which involves many factors for example status, position, opportunities, labels, and power.
The training systems that we Iranians come from is strictly competition and ranked based while there are no target the applicability of that knowledge in real life.
As a clinical counsellor, quantity of young Iranians who have been through all the steps of having to the top mountain of education, when they have forgotten the self. In some cases, choice of education has been equal to survival of parental nagging about future, comparisons to other’s children, and also the risk for losing family status. In many cases, my young customers are telling me how much they’ve lost motivation while they have tried to satisfy family’s expectations of these. Usually,this is actually the message most Iranian parents give their youth; you study and we pay. In this common scenario, individuals sense of identity, feelings, perceptions, and choice are from question.
Quantity of of these young clients let me know how much their own families did my way through their ability to maintain their secondary and post secondary educations.
Now these people finding yourself in their 30′s they have reached the stage where they realize their life has been sacrificed for any dream. The question is whose dream?
To become fair, let’s admit, we know that, most parents in our communities are prepared to do anything whatsoever to get their children become Doctor, Mohandas, or lawyers. Most Iranian families struggle for the sake of educating their kids. Families in Iran, they are willing to sell their houses and employ their life time savings to transmit their kids to best universities in Europe or within The united states.
Families force their children badly to go in programs that aren’t really on the list of these young fellows. I used the word “badly” since it is visible that families do not think about the effect of the push and pull game they are in. These families strive to have their youth to go to universities and colleges, when they forget to teach their youth self-dependence and social skills.
Education has become a discourse that impacts people life in a multifaceted way.
Sadly, most often we Iranian parents direct our children to satisfy a lost dream that’s basically ours and not necessary theirs. Families who come to are convinced that their young child wants to be a “doctor”, i always wonder about the emotional health in that family.
Families who come to tell me the number of doctors they have within their extended group and just how much they fear failure to procure another Doctor now that they are here in Canada.
There is no doubt our Iranian life has turned inverted during past 30 years, obviously nobody lives in their own individual skin.
Now maybe you ask what’s wrong with being ambitious? What is wrong with educating our children?
Clearly, there is nothing wrong with helping our children to go to post secondary education. There’s nothing wrong with becoming an ambitious parent. Indeed pursuing academic education is valued highly in all communities and that we should continue using all means to empower ourselves.