Archive for July, 2011

Iranian Parenting – Add Education towards the Social Skills

Sunday, July 24th, 2011

Academic education is valued highly within our Iranian culture. The idea of being someone with university degrees is really a yearning which involves many factors for example status, position, opportunities, labels, and power.

The training systems that we Iranians come from is strictly competition and ranked based while there are no target the applicability of that knowledge in real life.

As a clinical counsellor, quantity of young Iranians who have been through all the steps of having to the top mountain of education, when they have forgotten the self. In some cases, choice of education has been equal to survival of parental nagging about future, comparisons to other’s children, and also the risk for losing family status. In many cases, my young customers are telling me how much they’ve lost motivation while they have tried to satisfy family’s expectations of these. Usually,this is actually the message most Iranian parents give their youth; you study and we pay. In this common scenario, individuals sense of identity, feelings, perceptions, and choice are from question.

Quantity of of these young clients let me know how much their own families did my way through their ability to maintain their secondary and post secondary educations.

Now these people finding yourself in their 30′s they have reached the stage where they realize their life has been sacrificed for any dream. The question is whose dream?

To become fair, let’s admit, we know that, most parents in our communities are prepared to do anything whatsoever to get their children become Doctor, Mohandas, or lawyers. Most Iranian families struggle for the sake of educating their kids. Families in Iran, they are willing to sell their houses and employ their life time savings to transmit their kids to best universities in Europe or within The united states.

Families force their children badly to go in programs that aren’t really on the list of these young fellows. I used the word “badly” since it is visible that families do not think about the effect of the push and pull game they are in. These families strive to have their youth to go to universities and colleges, when they forget to teach their youth self-dependence and social skills.

Education has become a discourse that impacts people life in a multifaceted way.

Sadly, most often we Iranian parents direct our children to satisfy a lost dream that’s basically ours and not necessary theirs. Families who come to are convinced that their young child wants to be a “doctor”, i always wonder about the emotional health in that family.

Families who come to tell me the number of doctors they have within their extended group and just how much they fear failure to procure another Doctor now that they are here in Canada.

There is no doubt our Iranian life has turned inverted during past 30 years, obviously nobody lives in their own individual skin.

Now maybe you ask what’s wrong with being ambitious? What is wrong with educating our children?

Clearly, there is nothing wrong with helping our children to go to post secondary education. There’s nothing wrong with becoming an ambitious parent. Indeed pursuing academic education is valued highly in all communities and that we should continue using all means to empower ourselves.

Education Today

Sunday, July 24th, 2011

Let’s move on with a subject near and dear to the hearts. That is the education of our young adults. It seems that the American youth have fallen far behind the rest of the world in education. This can be a sorry situation from the greatest, richest most powerful country of the world. While children in Europe can speak at the minimum two languages, American youth have trouble reading and writing English. Instead of setting high standards of education to insure that people produce generation x of world leaders, we now have dumbed-down our educational standards.

So just where does Mr. Obama stand on education. His website states “Barack Obama puts children first purchasing early childhood education, ensuring our schools are adequately funded and led by high-quality teachers, and reforming No Child Left out.” Within the site they write about the Zero to Five plan, starting education in infancy and on your journey to a voluntary universal pre-school. They also talk about addressing the give up crisis by obtaining more funding for the school districts to begin personal academic plans and teaching teams. There is also vague talk of improving teachers through a system of education, and rewards.

Sounds great, but let us take a real possibility check. On 11/18/08 Mrs. Obama enrolled girls inside a prestigious private school in the DC area. The Obama girls won’t be benefiting from the general public education provided by the DC school district. That sort of faculty is alright for the people, but not for that Obama’s. Now we realize that security logistics may be challenging, therefore we might be forced to concede about this one whether it were not for a statement printed in the Ny Sun of Feb. 25, 2008. About school vouchers the Obama campaign released statement which stated, “Senator Obama has always been a critic of vouchers. Throughout his career, he’s voted against voucher proposals and voiced concern for siphoning off resources from your public schools.”

Therefore it would appear that Mr. Obama wants to attempt to put Band-Aids on the sinking ship called American education-just don’t aspire to send your kids to college with his girls, unless, of course you can afford it. Now I don’t know where your little corner around the globe is going with education, but down within sunny Florida things isn’t looking real good. Manatee County is considering cutting ANOTHER $6.3M in the school operating budget, with increased in the future, and that is along with the $21.4M which was cut even before the college year started. That appears pretty dismal for the kids. A litter further north in Pinellas county the school district is cutting $21M this year and the other $40M the coming year. They will be closing 5 elementary schools and shifting the scholars with other neighborhood schools.Mr. Obama… I think you’ll need a bigger band-aide.

Come on America, wake up-our youngsters are our future, we need to educate them. Call Washington, email your leaders, and let them know that this situation is unacceptable. We need to take action now. We have to be aware of in which the government is spending OUR MONEY. Remember, it’s our money. Remember the war that started over “TAXATION WITHOUT REPRESENTATION”. It is time for us all to speak up.